We all know a loner. They tend to enjoy spending as much time on
their own as they can. Of course, they do have friends. It’s not
that they dislike people.

They just have less of a need for peer acceptance than most. Often,
loners have large groups of friends and have a higher standard for
their friendships.

But still, many loners make the conscious decision to get plenty of
time on their own. Why? According to a psychologist at Wellesley
College, it’s because they don’t need acceptance.

“Some people simply have a low need for affiliation,” says Jonathan
Cheek. “There’s a big subdivision between the loner-by-preference
and the enforced loner.

Those who choose the living room over the ballroom may have inherited
their temperament,” Cheek says.

“Or a penchant for solitude could reflect a mix of innate tendencies
and experiences such as not having many friends as a child or growing
up in a family that values privacy.”

Of course, it’s possible to be too much of a loner. Some loners close
their borders, so to speak, because of anxiety. Some are pathologically

Some have had bad experiences as kids. These types of loners tend to get
butterflies around people. Social isolation can even be a health risk.

“Loneliness is like hunger and thirst—a signal to help your genes survive,”
says John Cacioppo, a psychologist at the University of Chicago.

“When you’re lonely, there’s a stress response in your body, and it’s not
healthy to sustain that for a long time.”

Of course, it takes all kinds, and loners tend to be smarter, more loyal
friends. If you have an outgoing friend who abruptly becomes a loner, that
may be cause for concern.

What do you think? Are you a loner? Here are 10+ special personality traits
of people who like to be alone:

1. Value Time

If there is anything extremely important to a loner, it is their time. They
respect and value time more than anything else. They are well aware time is
the most valuable asset to a successful life.

They will do everything in their power to not be late, never waste someone
else’s time, and will never allow someone to waste their time. They avoid
fake behavior and cannot tolerate people that think they can be played with.

Through their self-awareness, they have developed a huge level of self-respect.
Respect their time as they respect yours, and you can expect one of the most
incredible friendships imaginable.

2. Self-aware

Many people choose to ignore their thoughts and emotions. Loners choose to
embrace these feelings and become fully aware of them. Self-awareness is
very important and difficult to achieve.

Loners know themselves better than anyone else, and this allows them to
understand those around them better. Everyone has periods of depressive
and discouraging thoughts, but loners are able to navigate through them.

3. Level-headed

Loners are amazingly strong willed when tough situations come their way.
They have incredible focus and will power as a result of their frequent
reflection and alone time.

They can feel overwhelmed by stressful situations, but instead of getting
caught up with distractions, they decide to spend some time alone and
recharge. During this time, they devise solutions to their problems and
ways to cope.

4. Open-minded

Even though they like being alone, this does not make them rigid and
close-minded. On the contrary, they are extremely open-minded and are
always up for new idea and activities.

They don’t plan to spend their entire lives in their bedroom. They enjoy
exploring and going on new adventures. However, you’ll need to make sure
you give them their alone time before going anywhere that involves several

5. Loyal

Loners do not crave the company of others; however, this does not mean they
don’t have friends. Once they get to like someone and want to be your friend,
they will be one of the most loyal friends on the planet.

They know their value and worth. They exercise loyalty in all fields of life.
Relationships, work, family, you name it.

6. Clear Boundaries

Loners always have healthy boundaries. They understand themselves perfectly.
They have strong value. They never feel alone.

They know they always have themselves. They will respect your boundaries and
will let you know if you are about to cross theirs. In the end, if you can’t
be faithful to yourself, you cannot be faithful to anyone.

7. Aware Of Their Weaknesses/Strengths

Loners are more than aware of what their weaknesses and strengths are. However,
they know that there is always room to improve no matter how good they think
they’re doing.

Regardless of being self aware with these imperfections, they still hold their
heads high to show others that it is okay to be confident with who you are.

8. Very Empathetic

They also tend to be some of the most empathetic people in the entire world.
They are able to feel and sympathize with others on the same level as they are.
It is a very intense curse to have when you are able to feel everyone else’s
sorrow or despair.

However, since they are so empathetic, it is easy for them to find the bright
side in almost any negative circumstance. They would rather find a resolution
to whatever conflict is making their friends upset.

9. No One Is Perfect

Mentioned before about knowing their weaknesses and strengths, loners know that
no one is absolutely one hundred percent perfect.

We all have our own flaws and ways to improve on, however, they know it is better
to just go with the flow.

They do what they feel is right for themselves and for others and make sure that
they address each flaw within themselves with honesty and how they can maybe
improve on some of those imperfections.

10. Guided By Intuition

Your intuition is your constant guide through life, leading you to the next best
thing that awaits you on your long journey of growing up.

There is a lot that can be said about you and your gut instincts when it comes
to making tough decisions.

You don’t get scared easily because you know that your intuition will lead you
somewhere just as amazing as the last adventure you had.

11. Never Codependent

There is never a time in your life where you feel as if you need to depend on
someone else for anything at all.

You prefer to be your own person, even if you are in a relationship with someone
else you still prefer to do things your own way.

Being dependent on someone else for trivial needs is something you try to avoid
and will go great lengths to show others just how capable you are being on your

12. Filled With Kindness And Compassion

You love to demonstrate the meaning of compassion as well as kindness to others
so that they can understand that spreading love is a necessary piece of your

Showing others just how passionate are with the things that you love to do most
as well as being with the people that you love most.

This is one of the best qualities to a personality that not everyone gets to witness.

People Who Like To Be Alone Have These 10+ Special Personality Traits