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WHAT IS A COMPROMISE?

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HOW TO COMPROMISE?

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HOW TO COMPROMISE DURING A DIFFICULT SITUATION IN A RELATIONSHIP

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COMPROMISE




To compromise is to make a deal between different parties where each
party gives up part of their demand. In arguments, compromise is a
concept of finding agreement through communication, through a mutual
acceptance of termsóoften involving variations from an original goal
or desire.

Extremism is often considered as antonym to compromise, which, depending
on context, may be associated with concepts of balance and tolerance. In
the negative connotation, compromise may be referred to as capitulation,
referring to a "surrender" of objectives, principles, or material, in the
process of negotiating an agreement. In human relationships "compromise"
is frequently said to be an agreement that no party is happy with, this
is because the parties involved often feel that they either gave away too
much or that they received too little.


Defining and finding the best possible compromise is an important problem
in fields like game theory and the voting system.

Research has indicated that suboptimal compromises are often the result of
negotiators failing to realize when they have interests that are completely
compatible with those of the other party and settle for suboptimal agreements.
Mutually better outcomes can often be found by careful investigation of both
parties' interests, especially if done early in negotiations.



Compromise
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compromise



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COMPROMISE
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Three-Fifths Compromise (USA)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three-Fifths_Compromise

Connecticut Compromise (USA)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Connecticut_Compromise

Missouri Compromise (USA)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missouri_Compromise

Compromise of 1850 (USA)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compromise_of_1850

Compromise of 1867 (Austria-Hungary)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compromise_of_1867

Argument to moderation
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argument_to_moderation

Constitution
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Constitution

Win-win game
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Win-win_game



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WHAT
IS
A
COMPROMISE




A compromise is a negotiation between two or more parties, either
individuals or groups, that helps to reach a mutually agreed upon
decision. Essential to the idea of a mutual agreement is that each
person or group participating in the agreement must make the
decision to surrender some of the things he, she, or they would want
in order to hopefully get the things most desired. Compromise exists
in all aspects of life: in matters of business, relationships, and
so on. Even personally, an individual may have to find a middle ground
with his or her desires in order to reach the most workable arrangements
for pursuing a life.

In relationships, such as spousal relationships, itís usually agreed that
the ability to compromise can enhance each partnerís experience of the
relationship. Since people are individuals, itís seldom the case that two
people will agree on everything. Most reasonable individuals are able to
negotiate with their partners in order to give up things that arenít
important, and to get the things that are.

A couple might negotiate about the share of housework each partner will do,
the way in which children are raised, or just the specific tasks each person
needs to do for the day. A couple that decides one person will pick up the
kids while the other stays home to do the laundry has made a compromise.
Neither might particularly want either of these chores, but they get the
things done that are needed so that life runs smoothly.



What is a Compromise?
http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-a-compromise.htm



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What Is a Heads of Agreement?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-heads-of-agreement.htm

What Is a Compromise Agreement?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-compromise-agreement.htm

What Is Right of First Refusal?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-right-of-first-refusal.htm

What Is the Compromise of 1850?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-the-compromise-of-1850.htm

What Is a Mediation Certification?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-a-mediation-certification.htm

What Is Transformative Mediation?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-transformative-mediation.htm

What Is Negotiation Power?
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-negotiation-power.htm



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HOW
TO
COMPROMISE




Isn't it difficult to get anything done if you want one thing and
someone else wants another? This is where compromise comes in.



Steps


1. Know the person you are compromising with.

Can you reason with this person? Will this person willingly give up
something if they are offered something better? If so, you may find
compromising with them to be easy.


2. Know what the person wants.

If they want something that you aren't willing to give up, you may want
to find something similar to (or better than) the thing they want.


3. Negotiate.

If you are trying to determine where you should go for dinner, but you
and the other person don't like each other's suggestions, then try to
meet in the middle. Think of a place that serves the things both of
you like.


4. Failing that, barter.

Offer something to the other person in return for them giving in,
or offer to give in if they offer you something. Although giving in
should never be a first resort, compromise is all about giving
something in return for something else. Even if you have to give up
the argument, as long as you get something, you are compromising.


5. If the compromise leaned too heavily on your side, even it.

Do a favor for the other person. Not only would it be in the true
spirit of compromise, but you could potentially get them to see
things your way more often.




Tips


Be nice. No one will want to compromise with you if you don't seem
approachable and willing to listen.

Listen. If the other person suggests something you don't really agree
with, think of the benefits. Don't be afraid to look at the downsides
of your own decisions either.

Don't completely reject the other person's ideas. If someone wants to
buy something that is relatively pointless from you for a reasonable
price, think of the benefit of having more money in exchange for
something you don't need.

Don't automatically give in, either. If someone wants to buy a precious
family heirloom that may not be worth much, but has sentimental value,
for a less-than-satisfactory price, feel free to decline and direct them
to something else of yours if you still want the money.




Warnings


Remember that compromises are win-win situations; don't do anything that
could make one side lose, or you will end up getting played or being
avoided when it comes to future compromises.



How to Compromise
http://www.wikihow.com/Compromise



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HOW
TO
COMPROMISE
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How to Compromise with Your Parents
http://www.wikihow.com/Compromise-with-Your-Parents

How to Compromise With Your Spouse
http://www.wikihow.com/Compromise-With-Your-Spouse

How to Compromise Holidays With Your Significant Other
http://www.wikihow.com/Compromise-Holidays-With-Your-Significant-Other

How to Draft a Compromise Agreement Quickly and Cheaply
http://www.wikihow.com/Draft-a-Compromise-Agreement-Quickly-and-Cheaply



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HOW TO
COMPROMISE
DURING A
DIFFICULT
SITUATION
IN A
RELATIONSHIP




If you have to compromise during a difficult situation in a relationship,
you're in a tough spot. Giving and taking the right amount during a
relationship challenge isn't easy, but to save your relationship it's the
only option. However, if you find that you're being forced to compromise
on something major that you consider to be a "dealbreaker," then it might
be time to end the relationship.



Instructions


1. Consider how important the situation that you are compromising about is
in your relationship. If you are dealing with a small but difficult issue,
be prepared to be generous when compromising -- you don't want to damage a
relationship over something small. However, if you are compromising about
a major issue, be ready to stand up for yourself.

2. Be calm before the discussion about the difficult situation begins. When
you and your significant other are angry, words may be spoken from emotion,
rather than being based on actual thought. Take a deep breath, relax, and
then prepare to compromise about the situation.

3. Think through the situation that you are going to be compromising about
-- from your perspective and the perspective of your partner. Keep in mind
that neither one of you is right or wrong. Situations are just perceived
differently by different people. Try to understand where your significant
other is coming from in this challenging situation, even if you do not agree
with his or her perspective.

4. Sit down with your partner and begin to talk. In the beginning of the
conversation, address the issue at hand. Note that since you are both
unhappy with resolutions that have been addressed for your difficult
situation, you will need to compromise. This will set the stage for what
is expected from the upcoming conversation.

5. Once you and your partner are ready to compromise, begin the open dialogue.
Be sure to discuss how you feel without blaming your partner. Avoid statements
like, "You want it your way because you're stubborn!" Instead, opt to say, "I
understand your perspective on this situation, but I'd really prefer if we work
together to find a situation that works for both of us."

6. Discuss the reasons why you feel that a compromise is necessary. Simply asking
for one is not enough, because your partner may think that you are being unreasonable
just for the sake of being unreasonable. When you explain to your partner why the
compromise is important, he or she may be more willing to work with you and find a
suitable solution.

7. Remember that compromise requires both give and take. You can't expect to get
exactly what you want, and your partner can't either. So, when you are discussing
the situation at hand, offer trades. For example, you can say, "Since you want to
go to the beach, and I want to go to the zoo, why don't we visit the beach this
weekend, and the zoo next weekend?" or "I understand that you want to sleep over
at your parents' house because you'll be tired, so how about I drive so you can
sleep in the car instead?"

8. Discuss the issue until a reasonable compromise is reached. It may take some time,
but working together to resolve an issue will make you and your significant other a
stronger unit. Make sure that both your needs, and your partner's, are heard.

9. Resolve the issue, and stick to the resolution. You can easily destroy your
credibility by agreeing to a compromise in a difficult situation, then changing
your mind, or saying that you didn't really agree to the compromise. Even if you
don't fully love your compromise, stick with it. If you give more this time, your
partner should give more the next.



How to Compromise During a Difficult Situation in a Relationship
http://www.ehow.com/how_5322072_compromise-during-difficult-situation-relationship.html#ixzz2Q83iJdQ4



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HOW TO
COMPROMISE
DURING A
DIFFICULT
SITUATION
IN A
RELATIONSHIP
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TOPICS




How to Compromise in a Relationship
http://www.ehow.com/how_2299284_compromise-relationship.html

How to Compromise in a Relationship
http://www.ehow.com/how_2299284_compromise-relationship.html

How to Compromise
http://www.ehow.com/how_2073013_compromise.html

How to Compromise in Marriages
http://www.ehow.com/video_4984227_compromise-marriages.html

How to Compromise With Others
http://www.ehow.com/video_4983102_compromise-others.html

How to Compromise With a Spouse
http://www.ehow.com/how_2100413_compromise-spouse.html

The Importance of Compromise
http://www.ehow.com/facts_7586176_importance-compromise.html

How to Compromise in a Marriage
http://www.ehow.com/how_5178025_compromise-marriage.html

How to Make a Compromise
http://www.ehow.com/video_5610974_make-compromise.html

How to Find a Compromise
http://www.ehow.com/how_8138978_compromise.html

How to Compromise With Others
http://www.ehow.com/how_2310210_compromise-others.html

Explain Compromise in a Negotiation
http://www.ehow.com/facts_5885516_explain-compromise-negotiation.html

How to Help Your Kids to Compromise
http://www.ehow.com/how_6373197_kids-compromise.html



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COMPROMISE
LINKS




Compromise
http://www.beyondintractability.org/bi-essay/compromise

Compromise
http://www.ncsl.org/legislators-staff/legislators/legislators-back-to-school/elementary-school-lesson-plan-i-compromise.aspx

Compromise
http://www.cea.org/ctcompromise/pdf/Lesson-Plan.pdf

Compromise Role Play Lesson
http://esl.about.com/od/conversationlessonplans/fl/Compromise-Role-Play-Lesson.htm

How to Compromise
http://www.families.com/blog/how-to-compromise2

How to Disagree Agreeably
http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/how-to-disagree-agreeably-10000001057544/index.html

Learning To Respect Each Other
http://www.discoveryeducation.com/teachers/free-lesson-plans/learning-to-respect-each-other.cfm

Negotiating Differences/Compromise
http://www.teach-nology.com/lessons/lsn_pln_view_lessons.php?action=view&cat_id=13&lsn_id=25727

Resolving Conflicts
http://www.discoveryeducation.com/teachers/free-lesson-plans/resolving-conflicts.cfm

Social Skills
http://specialed.about.com/od/characterbuilding/

Why Compromise is SO Important for Healthy Relationships
http://www.wethechange.com/why-compromise-is-so-important-for-healthy-relationships/



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